Behavioral Consistency is about providing our home with predictability and safety. When parents do what they say, and when the child knows what is to come, this gives a sense of control and safety. When there are abrupt changes around us, we look for stability, familiarity, consistency. When parents are consistent in their words, our child will experience positive encouragement. It is a promise made. It will be carried out. Kids are confident that their parents or significant adults can be trusted because they do what they say and say what they mean. These adults are trustworthy. But when we do not follow up with our words, disappointment follows, and negative consequences of broken trust may occur.
Behavioral Consistency is also expressed through setting up routines in the homes—a productive timetable with work and play. A verbal routine of praise and affirmation may build self-love. When parents set up individual dates with their children, attention and affection can be expressed without the need to compare. The consistency and structure of meal-times, story-times, and sleep-times are wonderful spaces to relax, talk and exchange affections and love.
Behavioral Consistency provides relational and environmental predictability for our children to feel a sense of control and safety.
In summary, being consistent is to:
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The ability to adapt to all the abrupt changes is to balance consistency and flexibility.
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